“Perfectionism is a trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting impossibly high standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.” Is this you?
The talk and primer on perfectionism will help you to:
- Understand the difference between perfectionism and excellence.
- Set standards as per contexts.
- Become aware of unhelpful cognitive behaviours that reinforce perfectionism.
- Practice tips and tricks to set realistic goals.
Speaker: Dr. Tarique Sani is a psychotherapist, paediatrician, forensic expert, PHP geek, photographer, cyclist, and currently a runner.
Zainab Bawa
@zainabbawa
What are your perfectionism rules- unhelpful thoughts that produce the perfectionism cycle.
Submitted Apr 28, 2021
Perfectionists have rules which they apply to their behaviour. Some of these rules are:
- Relentless high standards setting - always setting even more demanding standards.
- All or nothing thinking. You have to be 100% perfect.
- Fear of failure - I can’t do something until everything related to the task is perfect.
- Shoulds and musts - absolute demands.
- Constant checking - checking multiple times if a particular task has been done well or not. This is related to fear of failure or all-or-nothing behaviour.
- Lack of self-control - you keep checking yourself again and again.
Perfectionism is not an isolated event. It is accompanied by unhelpful thinking. Here are the factors that keep perfectionism going:
- High standards - these are achieved are great cost. This is also accompanied by setting the high standards and re-setting these standards. Nothing is good enough for a perfectionist.
- Self-criticism and unhelpful thinking styles.
- Perfectionism behaviours that reinforce #1 and #2.
This unhelpful thinking causes the perfectionism cycle. Mainly, you base your self-worth is based on achieving high, unrelentless standards. This produces shoulds and must thinking in oneself.
If you have questions about perfectionism, post them in comments on https://hasgeek.com/kilter/overcoming-perfectionism/comments
Tarique Sani’s slides on perfectionism are available on https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1yjjdkn0nSqDGG-thm-j_FC7Ev6njWfhMSiq9IU1HJiU/edit?usp=sharing
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