“Perfectionism is a trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting impossibly high standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.” Is this you?
The talk and primer on perfectionism will help you to:
- Understand the difference between perfectionism and excellence.
- Set standards as per contexts.
- Become aware of unhelpful cognitive behaviours that reinforce perfectionism.
- Practice tips and tricks to set realistic goals.
Speaker: Dr. Tarique Sani is a psychotherapist, paediatrician, forensic expert, PHP geek, photographer, cyclist, and currently a runner.
Coping tricks as you practice overcoming perfectionism
When you try to change your perfectionist behaviours, you will experience discomfort. In order to cope with the discomfort, and continue the journey, these coping tips will help you:
- Practice not being perfect. This will invoke some discomfort. Try to tolerate this discomfort.
- Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Be self compassionate.
- Remind yourself of the unhelpful consequences of perfectionism i.e., social isolation, the constant feeling that you are working too hard, no time to relax, etc.
- Learn to laugh at yourself. Have a self-depricating sense of humour.
- Reward yourself often. This will help you to build compassion and permissiveness towards yourself.
Use a step ladder approach to changing your perfectionist behaviour. Watch the video of this talk to learn more about the step ladder approach and how you can customize this approach for yourself.
If you have questions about perfectionism, post them in comments on https://hasgeek.com/kilter/overcoming-perfectionism/comments
Tarique Sani’s slides on perfectionism are available on https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1yjjdkn0nSqDGG-thm-j_FC7Ev6njWfhMSiq9IU1HJiU/edit?usp=sharing