“Perfectionism is a trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting impossibly high standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.” Is this you?
The talk and primer on perfectionism will help you to:
- Understand the difference between perfectionism and excellence.
- Set standards as per contexts.
- Become aware of unhelpful cognitive behaviours that reinforce perfectionism.
- Practice tips and tricks to set realistic goals.
Speaker: Dr. Tarique Sani is a psychotherapist, paediatrician, forensic expert, PHP geek, photographer, cyclist, and currently a runner.
Tips and tricks to change perfectionism
Below are some suggestions on how to change perfectionist behaviours:
- Relaxing the unrelenting high standards and thinking in shades of grey.
- Be prepared to try new things.
- Commitment of time and effort - are you ready for change? Changing perfectionist behaviours will involve tolerating discomfort for some time.
- Make a thought diary, listing the positive and negative consequences of pursuing unrelenting high standards/perfectionism.
- List the personal benefits and costs you anticipate if you loosen unrelenting high standards/perfectionism.
#4 and #5 will help you decide whether you are really ready for change.
Now, set goals for change:
- Choose a general area to work on first.
- Adjust your unrelenting high standards associated with this area.
- Identify the perfectionism behaviour you wish to work upon.
- Identify a specific goal towards reducing this perfectionism behaviour.
- Set a time frame.
If you have questions about perfectionism, post them in comments on https://hasgeek.com/kilter/overcoming-perfectionism/comments
Tarique Sani’s slides on perfectionism are available on https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1yjjdkn0nSqDGG-thm-j_FC7Ev6njWfhMSiq9IU1HJiU/edit?usp=sharing